|Posted by SuperMomSurveys on March 23, 2015 at 11:25 AM|
Raising Kids to Thrive: Balancing Love With Expectations and Protection With Trust
I received a free copy of Raising Kids to Thrive: Balancing Love With Expectations and Protection With Trust to enjoy and review. I don't usually go for these kinds of books, but I have to say that I did like this one. I started reading this the same afternoon that I got it in the mail. I read while I was waiting for the kids to get out of school and I just flew through it. I was finished with it in about 3 days of 20-minute sessions. If you're like me, you have a ton of these types of books, but you can't really agree with most of the things said in a lot of them.
I didn't find that to be the case with this one. I did actually finish reading it and I truly enjoyed reading it...and agreed with the majority of it. Now that's saying something for me. This book focuses on being a "lighthouse parent", which basically means that you are there to offer stability and guidance for your kids so that they can have the freedom to make their own decisions.
All throughout the book are quotes, from a variety of teenagers, that tell what they want their parents to do and say. I was surprised at some of them. They seemed so mature and genuine.
The basic things this book helps with are:
- Loving our kids unconditionally yet still hold high expectations for them; when love feels conditional (when parental affection is solely shown in response to grades, performance, or behaviors) kids experience an ever-present sense of pressure.
- Accept that our children (and adults) are “uneven" kids: the importance of expecting growth and not perfection from our children.
- Holding our kids to high moral standards, while also being a role model for those standards.
- Recognizing and coping with stress.
- When to set boundaries and when to get out of kids’ way: how to set clear expectations about risky behaviors
- How to start meaningful conversations with our children by becoming a sounding board and not necessarily a dictator
- Reduce anxiety – for themselves and their kids – as they venture out on their own and move into adulthood
The author, Kenneth R. Ginsburg, M.D., M.S. Ed, FAAP, is great too. His writing makes me feel like I'm having coffee over the kitchen table. I love that. That's the sort of books I tend to get into the most. Here's some info on him:
Kenneth R. Ginsburg, M.D., M.S. Ed, FAAP is a specialist in adolescent medicine at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia (CHOP) and a professor or pediatrics at the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine. He is also director of health services at Covenant House Pennsylvania. He has over 100 publications, including 30 scientific articles and 5 books including the award-winning / best-selling Building Resilience in Children and Teens (American Academy of Pediatrics). He drafted the AAP policy statement on The Power of Play and has been an expert source for several prominent parenting news articles and reports in media outlets such as The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, USA Today, TIME Magazine, ABC News, Yahoo! Parenting, NBC News and CNN. He is working with The Boys and Girls Clubs of America to incorporate resilience-building strategies into their programming. He is also honored to be working withmilitary parents and professionals to incorporate stress reduction and resilience building strategies into the lives of our nearly 2 million military-affiliated children. His greatest privilege is to be a husband and the father of two teenaged daughters.
KENNETH R. GINSBURG, MD, MS ED, FAAP
American Academy of Pediatrics Releases New Book from Best-Selling Author: Raising Kids To Thrive: Balancing Love With Expectations and Protection With Trust
Renowned Resilience Expert, Ken Ginsburg MD, MS ED, FAAP, Combines His Experience with Perspective from His Teenage Daughters and Over 500 Adolescents
In his latest book -- Raising Kids to Thrive: Balancing Love With Expectations and Protection With Trust (American Academy of Pediatrics, March 24, 2015) -- best-selling author, pediatrician and resilience expert, Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MS Ed, FAAP, offers essential tips on fostering resilience in teens. He gently helps parents understand how they can meet the challenge to balance unconditional love, yet still hold high expectations for their children. Through his “Lighthouse Parenting Strategy,” he also helps parents recognize when to set boundaries and when to get out of kids’ ways.
This groundbreaking book includes two chapters written by Dr. Ginsburg’s twin teenage daughters, and interweaves opinions and input of over 500 adolescents who participated in the “Youth View” chapters. By combining the wealth of experience from Dr. Ginsburg and insightful commentary from today’s teenagers, Raising Kids to Thrive offers a fresh take on how to successfully parent teens in today’s complicated world.
“People are uneven,” says Dr. Ginsburg. “Highly successful people are great at something, and their desire to explore other areas is what makes them interesting.” He adds, “We harm kids when we suggest that to make it in this world they must be good at absolutely everything.”
Kenneth R. Ginsburg, MD, MS Ed, FAAP, is a professor of pediatrics at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia and the University of Pennsylvania School of Medicine and director of health services at Covenant House Pennsylvania. He is the author of the best-selling Building Resilience inChildren and Teens: Giving Kids Roots and Wings (AAP – currently in its 3rd Edition, October 2014) and coauthor of Less Stress, More Success: A New Approach to Guiding Your Teen Through College Admissions and Beyond (AAP).
Author: Kenneth R. Ginsburg MD, MS Ed, FAAP with Ilana Ginsburg and Talia Ginsburg
Publisher: American Academy of Pediatrics, Distributed by Independent Publishers Group
Publication: March 24, 2015
Available at bookstores nationwide and online; also available from shop.AAP.org/books, the award-winning AAP Web site for parents.
Disclosure: This was a sponsored post. All opinions are my own.